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My husband Sean, passed away yesterday, 1st. February. I want to thank most sincerely the Wexford Hospice Homecare team, they were absolutely wonderful, Janet, Niamh & Orlagh. Sean loved Janet, she told him she would always be honest with him & she kept that promise while also taking into account what the family told her. These ladies are true angels & are most deserving of all our support. Who knows when we might need them? We must continue to support this terrific service. The family want to thank the wonderful Oncology team at Wexford Hospital,they were so good & caring, thanks Mary, Jenny, Sasha & Margaret. Thanks to Dr, Calvert, Sean's Oncologist & to Dr. Caroline Hogan who was an absolutely wonderful support as well as a great & caring physician. Many, many thanks to Paddy & all the staff in Farrell's Pharmacy, Templeshannon, Enniscorthy. They really went out of their way to help me in every way they could & I appreciate it most sincerely. I will miss the love of my life forever but he is now with our Son Gary & I know I will meet up with again some day. Rest in peace my darling. XXXXXXXXXX

i thought id start a new thread here for anyone who has lost a loved one. once they are gone the family tend to be forgotten to get on with things and [for many of us me included] we are not ready to forget the person who passed away. so i thought it would be a place to write down how we feel or just to talk to others in the same situation. i really hope anyone in this position will take advantage of this thread and maybe help someone else as well................ anyway, i will start the thread by saying, i lost my dad to cancer of the oesophagus on 25 sept 2008. i still cry a lot as he and i were very close. he was the best dad a girl could wish for [in my eyes] and he died not knowing he was going to be a great grandad. i feel cheated that he was taken from me the way he was, he was 73 and i always expected him to die of old age and without pain and suffering. i just celebrated my 40th birthday yesterday and it was awful that he wasnt here, but he couldnt hold on and i wouldnt have wanted him to try. anyway that about sums up my story so please feel free to put your stories here and hopefully there will be a little comfort in knowing there are others like you out there. thankyou all for reading this and [hopefully] putting your own stories here too. trisha.

My Mother passed away on the 29 November 08. She had lung cancer and the cancer had spread to most of her main organs by the time she died. She was born in Dublin and like so many at that time went over to England where she met my father who was from Cork. I settledd in Cork with my husband and three children and she was a regular visitor. She arrived for a ten day stay last July on a Wednesday and felt a little unwell on the Friday evening. I took her to the doctor on Saturday morning and she was admitted to hospital the same day. Here is where the nightmare started. Once the chest xrays had been done it became apparant that there was something seriously wrong, but it took time for a diagnosis. Biopsies failed and were redone. My Mother knew that this was not going to have a happy ending. It is very stressful waiting for test results and different doctors coming round askig questions that you have already told another doctor. I know my Mother found this very tiresome but coped so well. It is very true that you only find out your strength when you are faced with such bad news which is relentless. Pain was a problem for my Mother so the pain medication got stronger and sometimes didin`t suit her and she would react swetating, shaking talking but not making any sense. She was in and out of hospital. She came home on 20 November for the last time. I only had a couple of days with her before she tooka turn for the worse Then her meds were administered directly into her bloodstream. The pallative nurses were brilliant and very supportive. One in particular was a night nurse who came for three nights her name is Patricia she was a God send myself and family will always be grateful to her for care and compassion she showed. God Bless you Patricia. Again the other pallative nurses were great. My Mother had given up smoking about a year and a half before her death, which made it even sadder. The time since she passed has gone so quick and although I will always have an ache in my heart and I can`t think about my son a gangly 15 year old gently lifting your coffin without getting tearful. You had so much dignity Mum throughout your life. I loved that you would always put your family first. I sold daffodils this year Mum like you did the year before. Thankyou Mum for so much. I know that you are happy and at peace. Love forever xx

My dear Stephen Gleeson,Assumpta park Limerick and beal,Asdee,Listowel,Co.Kerry went to be with the Lord 2 years ago...it sometimes feel like 50 yrs ago... We miss him so much and the 7 kids and 1 grandson Joshua...not sure how we will mark the occasion this year...I feel down and lonely at the moment...

My husband of 16yrs passed away on May 1st. He was diagnosed last June with stomach cancer, he was only 39. He was amazing. He never let the cancer or the treatment get him down. Within weeks of starting his chemo he was back on his feet. In March this year he started getting headaches and spent a few weeks in hospital with suspected meningitus. Later that month we got the brilliant news that his cancer had gone into remission. However his symptons never improved and the headaches got worse. He was transferred to Galway hospital easter thursday and the following wednesday we were told that the cancer had spread to the lining of his skull. He fell into a coma 11 days later and passed away 4 days after. I am so proud of him, and i miss him more each day. He has left behind a 15yr old daughter and an extended family whose lives will always have a huge whole in it. Everyone who knew him said how brave he was and the huge turnout at his funeral proved that. I have been honoured to be his wife and friend.

Don't know why I am posting this here and I will probably delete it before morning but I just need to verbalise it. I miss her so much. She died in February and not a day goes by when I dont think of her and regret not telling her how much she meant to me.Sometimes I think I will wake up and it will have been a bad dream.I suppose everyone that has lost someone feels that way. I see her family dealing with her death and wonder why I can't talk about her without being in tears. I am so sad tonight and wish so badly that she was here so I could give her a quick buzz or a text. Her childrens lives are changing again next month and that makes me sad for them.They should have their beautiful Mum with them.How do those children deal with the loneliness of not having her there when I find it hard? :cry: :cry: :cry: Love and Miss you D.xxx

saddly we lost our Dad to cancer last week June 9th 2010....missing you loads Dad xxx

dad, i just hope you really are in a better place now as everyone keeps telling me. its not even a fortnight yet but i miss you so much im actually feeling physical pain. i would never want to bring you back to suffer again as i know your pain was horrific. i often wondered if i did the right thing in fighting the doctors to allow you to come home, but i think it was the right thing for you. i know you didnt want to die in hospital, but the doctor told us you would have a couple of days left if we kept you in hospital, instead you only got 10 mins at home before you left us and for that ive felt a lot of guilt. but if you hadnt got your last wish to die at home i think my guilt would be so much more. i have you in my heart and when i miss you i think of the good times before you got sick. i will look after mum as you wouldve wanted, ive been with her every day since you left us. she is devastated but we can help each other. im going to miss our wee walks together with you holding my arm and our drives in the car where you gave me the wrong directions and got us lost. in the end though you were just too ill to do any of that. anyway daddy, i just wanted to let you know that i will always love you and as the song says, youre in the arms of the angels. from your loving daughter patricia, sleep tight daddy.

Hi, Coming up on three years ago now my Mum died of cancer. She was the biggest and most wonderful inspiration in my life. I've started a blog about her if anyone is interested www.mumliveson.com E

My beautiful, kind, caring, genorous aunt died this morning. I cant believe it. She was diagnosed with lung cancer in Dec 08 and the cancer just spread through her like wildfire. It wasnt enough that she was suffering from this but they she ended up having a heart attack and stroke on top of that. Up until last night she was stuck in a cubicle in A&E and it was heartbreaking to see her dying in such an environment. When she woke up she wasnt able to see us because the stroke distorted her vision. She eventually was moved to an observation ward last night and after a few restless hours she went to sleep and never woke up. Im so angry that such a good woman had to suffer like this. She never did harm on anybody, was always helping other people and never asked for anything in return. There is about 200 mass cards in her house from friends and family. Thats how much she was loved. She was like a second mother to me and I cant believe she is gone. Im in shock and dont know how I should be feeling. She had no kids, myself and my brothers were like her children. I want to cry but I cant. I just feel numb.