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This week has been the worst week of my life. Diagnosed with Breast cancer on wed. It’s in the lymph nodes too. I’ve to get chemo , surgery and radiotherapy. Next week a bone scan and then a PET scan. I feel and look healthy but I’m terrified the cancer has spread everywhere and I’m terrified of chemo . I work from home so I plan to continue to do that. My emotions are all over the place. Ok one min and actually having panic attacks the next min. Each day is a struggle . I know I have harder days ahead . I’m so worried. I’m in shock. I’m avoiding telling people as it makes it so “real”. Anyone else in the same boat ? Xxx

Hi, this is my first time posting here , my mam has recently been diagnosed with primary gallbladder cancer and liver metastasis. They have said it’s serious but treatable but obviously we are all very worried for her . She is starting chemo soon. She is 73 and normally in great health but I’m so worried she won’t make it through . Is this a good sign that they are even doing chemo ? I wanted to ask the doctors more when we went in for her diagnosis but didn’t know how much to say in front of her . They did say it’s stage 4. Does anyone have any words of wisdom to help her and my dad and also how can we help her mentally get through the next while ? Should we talk to her about it or distract her ? Just want to help her as best we can . Thanks all

I have an oncology related appointment next week. My employer does not pay sick pay which I know and understand. I want to take the day as unpaid sick leave. However, thay are insisting that I work another day instead. Is that legal?

Hi I’m new here My partner got diagnosed with tongue and throat cancer last week, we have 6 young children and both work, his cancer came as a shock like most, he’s awaiting surgery and has. More tests this week, he has become very ill really quickly which I’m struggling with he’s losing weight and is becoming very tired and his pain is getting worst. I want to support him as much as I can, I will be his main carer is there anyone going through the same thing caring for a loved one, I would like to make new friends going through this journey and we could support each other, what other support can I give my partner I’m feeling lost at the moment

Hi was just diagnosed with grade 2 breast cancer...found lump 4 wks ago but don’t know how long it’s been there but consultant said it’s only a small tumour (1 inch) & my lymph node tested positive so I’ve 2 wait 4 scans 2 make sure it’s not gone any further & this is killing me...but both times docs were checking my lymph nodes 1 said he couldn’t find them being swollen n other said they weren’t that swollen ...not sure if this is a good thing r not?....I would just like to get things movin so I can b on the rd 2 getting better already ...thanks

Hi, I was diagnosed with Breast cancer in 2016 (aged 28) I had a mastectomy with auxiliary clearance with immediate reconstruction using an implant and the muscle from my back, (latissimus dorsi flap), followed by chemotherapy and radiotherapy and tamoxifen for 5 years. The implant became distorted and I had it replaced in 2018. The implant was placed very high and overtime a fold formed over the implant, so when I bend down there would be a deep crease, I believe this is called a capsular contracture. I mentioned it to my surgeon a few times but it was dismissed as just something that just happens. I waited until the time was right and I was finished having my family, so I bit the bullet as they say and plucked up the courage to go back and see another surgeon in 2019. I was rushed into making a quick decision and ended up having another implant late 2019, the job looked good at first but over the next 6 months I needed some fat harvested from my tummy to fill in the fold again. This was delayed until October 2020 because of covid. The capsular contraction appeared again 6 weeks later and another fat transfer was suggested. I didn't opt for this as site of the harvest was quiet painful for a time afterwards and I wasn't guaranteed that it would fix the problem. I decided to go to another surgeon and see what my other options would be. This time the DIEP flap was suggested. I have done some research on this and I am not sure it is an option. I know the feel etc is supposed to be great. Can anyone advise me on this. Is the scar on the tummy really hip to hip. Is the recovery really 3 months, do you have to go back for various adjustments, if I needed another mastectomy down the line DIEP wont be an option. I would really appreciate any advice from someone with similar experience. I am conscious of the seriousness of the operation and the fact that I have a young family with little support.

Hi all..I'm 31 years old November 27.2020 diagnosed with small cell lung cancer...I'm single mum raising 2 boys on my own..having no family completely on my own.question is what support I can get in my situation...thanks

1. Just back yesterday for the ‘results’ of lumpectomy. I wasn’t expecting surgeon today to say another surgery is needed. Does this happen much? Is there someone out there with the same experience? 2. Also, I would love to know what are the chances of needing radiotherapy afterwards, surgeon hopes I might avoid it, but again, I would love to hear from people. 3. (Couldn’t sleep last night, was inclined to blame surgeon for missing the extra calcification that now bring need for the second surgery. ) All support welcome.

Hi all, I had a colonoscopy 2.5 weeks ago which was normal. 10 biopsies were taken and I have a virtual appointment next week for the results. Do you think it being a virtual appointment that it might be good news? Would they bring you in if there was something detected?

Hi, I am just looking for some advice or experience Diagnosed with Dcis back in September had surgery and radiotherapy treatment which I finished in January. Roll on to 14th March and I am still suffering really severe headaches. Have had scans & bloods, all clear but the ponding in my head is on going. Also my breast that I had treatment on is still very very tender/painful. Is this still normal after 3months? Any advice or other experiences much appreciated. M