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My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 3 weeks ago, spread to ribs and breast bone. He is 79 and is very very frail so would not be able for treatment. He is experiencing visual and auditory hallucinations atm The palliative team have referred him back to hospital for urgent hypercalcemia treatment. My question is while i understand that it is so scary for him right now and with not feeling well and in pain his mood is bound to be low but he is getting very verbally aggressive with my brother (his main carer as my brother and his family live with him). He is taking out all his anger on him. Blaming him for him getting cancer because he called the ambulance the 1st night. Fighting with him constantly. This is having a real adverse effect in my brother's mental health. He isnt like that with me as I'm not there 24/7. Apart from me telling my brother to not take it personal as its based out of fear and to remove himself from the room when my dad gets this way, is there anything else i can suggest? Many thanks

I could not see myself surviving my masectomy operation. Today I am 4 weeks post op. The physiotherapist said I could go back driving today, which I really wanted to do to get my independence back. However I got extremely upset after the short drive. My left breast is gone. The seat belt now does not sit right accentuating the fact I have no breast. I am struggling putting on a bra with the sponge insert, never mind the meltdown I had when the lady called to fit me for a prosthetic breast. 😭 is this normal? I'm really struggling with all this to be very honest.

Good afternoon. I had a breast biopsy last weds & the radiographer told me to come back next weds that's tomorrow for my results I rang the hospital this morning and they told me she had no right to tell me when to come back that it's 2 weeks standard and that I wouldn't be seeing her it's a consultant. She have me the 3rd of January for the call back. So that's 3 weeks in total. I'm really worried now. She said there's a delay due to Christmas.

Hi, I can't get my nurse in the phone I was diagnosed weds with triple negative bc, 4cm lump awaiting biopsy to see if it has gone to lymphnode which is at 3.7. Now i noticed a small ball like lump above my collar bone. I'm so worried. My surgeon assured me while I wait for my scan on the 2nd of Jan it won't spread that quick

Hi as it is Sunday I cannot contact the clinic in CUH, I have tested positive for covid today. Meant to start my 2nd week of radiotherapy tomorrow morning. I presume I cannot go? I tested negative on Thursday AM, felt poorly all week though. Any advice appreciated. Will try clinic first thing in the morning but I need to travel from kerry to Cork so its all very stressful.

Hi, today, after an 11 week wait, I received the results from a skin biopsy I had done on a mole behind my ear. The diagnosis was as follows "at least superficial spreading melanoma in situ with dermal regression including chronic inflammation and melanophages to a depth of 0.4mm. Lesion is 2mm clear of nearest peripheral margin" The gross description included "SE measuring 20x11x5mm with a central flat dark brown lesion measuring 10x7mm" I had overheard the junior doctor talking with a senior doctor/consultant outside before they came in and they were mentioning the 0.4mm and they had discussed it before Xmas but there was some confusion. My main oral & maxillofacial consultant then came in and told me it was a strange one and the report was saying melanoma in situ. I have an appointment again in 4 weeks but may be back sooner if they need to take more skin, I believe the MDT are meeting on Friday week. My question is, does the diagnosis seem strange that it would confuse the team, is there something not matching up. Also, what are the chances that I could have other melanoma in situ in other areas of my body once I have one? Any advice, experience is appreciated. Thanks.

My 91 year old mother was diagnosed with esophageal cancer at the end of Sept. She's had a stent inserted and is not having other treatment. So she's basically in palliative care at home and we have great support from the local medical community. She had an incident this morning where after feeling weak and being helped to sit on her bed, she basically froze, staring, unable to speak or react to us speaking to her. Her head and neck were rigid and her eyes were unfocused. We've been told she may have already had a TIA or could have them and I'd like to know if this was a TIA. I haven't seen her have one before, though she's complained of the back of her head being 'uncomfortable' on two other occasions... So far there are no visible side effects, such as a stroke might produce or anything similar. She's tired but OK afterwards. Thanks for any input.

Hi My Dad 74 started immunotherapy about year ago but for last 3 months was unable to get treatment due to thyroid and blood readings. He has circa 4 cancer spots - Sternum upper hip area and groin(I believe stage 3). Due to back pain he has been given tramadol. He is due back to St James Hospital next week for results of CT scan. My question is why he seems to have little appetite and ongoing nausea for over 4 weeks?

Hi I recently discovered a lump under my arm, I went my GP and she advised a private Ultrasound and mammogram in St Jame's, she said it could take up to two weeks, two days later, I got a call to book me in for the following week, the fast turnaround (however greatful I am) has me very anxious, any advice or is this normal practice, thank you in advance

Hi there, My wonderful best friend has just completed her journey and got the all clear. She is worrying about symptoms she felt were signs of her cancer starting even though she has been checked several times and has be told all is ok, the stress and anxiety is has her living in consent fear. I need some advice on how to support her, reassure her without sounding condescending or dismissive and perhaps learn about some support or tools that can help her through this part of her journey. Thank you. A