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Just wanted to say to all our members that haven't started treatment or have just started or are in the middle of it, that there is a life after it. I thought when I was in the middle of chemo and starting radiotherapy that I was never going to feel any sense of normality again but today I did. My poor hubbie wasn't well over the weekend so roles were reversed and we went for a drive in the sun today and had some lunch out and I just wanted to scream"Oh how I appreciate life " a sandwich in a little cafe and I was so happy and contented. No hospital now for three weeks so going to enjoy it. People are strange met a lady I knew today who got breast cancer same time as me, just had lumpectomy and radiotherapy, no chemo, but she wasn't really happy, complaining about the soreness in her breast from the radiotherapy and I just got the feeling she felt hard done by, because she got cancer. I had to say to her that if she had have had chemo it would have been a lot worse and the pain in her boob would have paled into insignificance . I said "we are so lucky" she's still looking at me. Cant believe I'm getting so many compliments about my hair, makes you feel good too. Even my lovely radiotherapy oncologist said to me on Monday "the hair's lovely Mary" and he's as bald as an egg lol but lovely and handsome. Just thought I'd share todays thoughts with you my dearest friends. Xxxx

[color=#800040:cf406n61]Wondering what peoples thoughts are on this. Just thinking how many 'negative' images there are out there with regards to cancer. I personally hate the use of 'she/he lost their cancer battle' or 'she fought her illness bravely ' etc. It sort of gives the image that people who get well do it through choice and people who don't didn't 'fight/battle' long or hard enough. People are said to be 'courageous, brave and never complain', yet I know I'm not always brave or courageous and have certainly complained when I was in huge pain. I was also angry and really annoyed at times. In my mind cancer is like any other medical illness. It comes into your life and you do your best to get the best medical outcome. Whether you get well or not, like lots of other medical conditions, depends on a lot of things. I would also say that experiencing cancer has had its positive moments, funny moments and lifechanging moments. I was forced to take time out to get treatment for my cancer and in doing that I took time out of a busy life and realised that if I had time for this I can also make time for other things in my life. LIfe is only as busy as I make it. I've had funny 'no hair' moments, met some amazing people along the way. Would I change things.....most definately YES. I would prefer not to have cancer. But I've no regrets about what I've learnt about myself.....only wish I could have done it some other way, some other time. [/color:cf406n61]

Hi Girlies, Just looking to hear of your experiences with going back to work post surgery/chemo & rads. I finished chemo last Nov & rads in January and returned to work five weeks ago. I decided not to return to the job I had pre my cancer journey and have started to work for a new company. Its full time in an office. The biggest problem is my memory loss and tiredness. I feel totally out of my depth and really lack the confidence I had before. I have to write everything down and there are times when I just feel so god damm stupid. I got recommended for this job and now I feel like a completely different person than what I was a year ago and I'm sure my new employer is disappointed as they were convinced I was going to be wonderful & ideal for the job but I'm simply not that person anymore. I have gone from being top of my game to struggling terribly with the simpliest of tasks. Has anybody else had these problem? Shirls

Hi all Has anyone had their good breast lifted after recon to match up with new one?Am going in on 21st to have this done aswell as fat filler to new one.Just wondering what to expect with lift as am hoping to do mini marathon 11 days later(had signed up before date came in). Any info appreciated thanks. xx

Ladies Just thought I would let you know that I went swimming today .... in a pool ... communal showers .... public changing room! I have been putting off going swimming, which I used to do in a previous life, as I felt I could never face the no boob situation. Well today I took the bull by the hornes and did it. Swam 12 lengths - will sleep for sure tonight and better still the uniboober survived the looks and all the uncomfortableness. It is true ... what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Ladies I thought my pre cancer body wasn't too hot and I would never have been comfortable in the communal showers/changing room. Never, ever thought that I would take the cancer ravaged version out on tour!!!!

Sorry not sure where else to ask this. We were told in the hospital as long as my husband wears a condom we could continue to have sex. I meet a lady today who said she was told not to have sex during chemo. What was everyone else told... Jesus I will be very upset if on top of everything else we can't even have a sex life..... Apologies of tmi...

Well I have spent another sleepless night . I sleep well except the 3 days I have to take these tablets. Anyone else find this. On top of the increased appetite for these few days...

Hi ladies Me again!!!have been taken off tamoxifen and put on femara anyone else on this?whats it like? Thanks in advance Xx

Again, just reading up and realise having your ovaries removed is an option for some women who haven't reached the menopause yet but who have oestrogen receptor positive (ER+) breast cancer. Just wondering has anyone had this done or talked this through with their medical team. From what I'm understanding its for women who are still producing oestrogen and it stops oestrogen production. I had chemotherapy and felt the full onslaught of the menopause and my bloods showed it was indeed that. Now, however, my periods are back to normal and usual cycle I've always had. I'm aware there are drugs that work by lowering or blocking the effects of oestrogen on breast cancer cells. But I don't want any more children and wonder is removing my ovaries a better, more permanent option. Going by my mum she was nearly 11 years older than I am now when she went into natural menopause. Lots of questions on this one....will chat with my medical team on this but curious as usual, on other womens' experience.

One of my nails has started to discolour. Have just done chemo 4 have 2 left. Am doing tch chemo.. Has anyone got shellac nails done or is that a bad idea.. Not very good at painting my nails..