Lung cancer
posted by dizzy123
09 September 2008

Prognosis

Last reply: 12 October 2015 11:22

Hi,
I'm a new person to this. My father was diagnosed with lung cancer in August & has 1 blast of chemo. I just found out last night that his chemo treatment is only to help him cope rather then been given for cure reasons. I have not been bringing him to his appointments & I feel like I am not been given all the information. If its a case that it has spread to his bones, which I believe it has & it is in his lymph nodes, would he have been given a time span, prognosis or do they only give that info if you ask the doctors?
Thanks in advance for any help, its all muddy water to me!

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commented by jen
12 September 2008

12 October 2015 11:22

dizzy i feel the same. i know nothing bout my best friends lung cancer except that hes on a time limit. i am finding it impossible to find out any information so if you find out anything please share the news.
i'll do the same for you. its a struggle and i am sorry to hear bout your father.
best thing i would say is ask the doctors. if your dads ok with it of course, since every case is so different no info online or in books really helps anyway
best of luck
jen

commented by dizzy123
13 September 2008

12 October 2015 11:22

thanks Jen for your reply. Its terrible when you have to cope with everything that is going on & you don't know if your coming or going. I realise that everybody is different with how they cope with the medications etc so its hard for them to say but its so confusing. He was given blood transfusions the other day as his bloods were too low to give the chemo. It is also definitely in his back. He isn't well yesterday or today when in fact he should be feeling well after getting the pints of blood. I don't know if its days, weeks, months. I'm all over the shop, having panic attacks & generally feeling demented. l don't know if I'm coming or going. I have 2 babies under 17 months & I feel like I'm not giving them 100% not even 10%!
There is stress between me my sister & my brother. My sister took on with his care but its a constant battle that we're not doing enough. We can't do right for doing wrong. When we visit we don't get welcomed I generally drive home crying every second day & if we don't visit we're the worst in the world.
Oh rant rant rant, I didn't mean for it to go this way, its all a long story as I'm sure everybodies is that is going through this.
Take care of you & your friend.
I'll keep an eye on this spot for you in the future, maybe we can help each other understand.
ta ta for now

commented by SarahJ
15 September 2008

12 October 2015 11:22

Hi Dizzy I am so very sorry to hear about your dad its a terrible time I know I am going through it myself with my father. In realtion to information the only people who really know about your fathers condition and prognosis are his team of doctors. Is your dad still in hospital? If he is you could ask one of the nurses when your fathers team do their rounds and ask could you speak with them. Also there maybe a cancer nurse co-ordinator in the hospital you could make an appointment to speak with them. I found them lovely to deal with and very understating of your situation. I hope this helps.

commented by Charlie
02 October 2008

12 October 2015 11:22

Hi Dizzy,
My Dad has also just being diagnosed with lung cancer. It took a long time for them to come to this conclusion and it is still taking a long time to get information from the doctors. After some frustration we got the number for the doctor from his secretary and now we have arranged to meet with him tomorrow. We are going to write down a list of questions so we are prepared when we see him.
As regards your family, this is a very stressful time and it is very easy to fall out with family membersbecause such and such is or isn't doing this or that. especially at this time its really not worth arguing or falling out with people. We called a family meeting last Sunday and discussed things which was a geat help and everyone felt better after it. Sometimes you have to understand people just are stressed or upset andthis is tere way or coping so maybe just let somethings go. Uf your sister wants to take control, let her but just let her know that you are there to lend a hand any time.
Anyway, I hope this helps.

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