Dad just diagnosed with small cell lung cancer stage 4

November 29, 2016 - 21:54

Hi,
I'm a little, well a lot sad today, my Dad has been diagnosed with stage four small cell lung cancer. He has no symptoms and went into hospital for something else. Unfortunately, I know a lot about the disease as a dear friend's sister has it and I've read a lot about it. I'm scared. My Dad knows nothing about how potentially serious it can be and he thinks he'll beat this with chemo. We're going to discuss his treatment on Friday and I don't know how he'll cope with the devastation if they tell him it's terminal (and my poor Mammy). Any advice on how I can help him through this? I'm being really positive when I'm around them but I'm petrified. Is there any hope for this type of cancer? I'm sick of the doctors already asking me if I'm medical when I ask them questions, they also said chemo is their only option, why can't they do radiation or immunotherapy? Any advice as well on what's ahead would be appreciated and how I can balance spending time with my own family (in Dublin), my family at home (Kerry) and work (Dublin). Obviously I want to spend as much time as I possibly can with my Dad and family. I have two young children as well who seemingly have been acting up since I've been home. I miss them terribly (and I have only been in Kerry six days).
Any help would be so appreciated.

January 16, 2017 - 11:32

Dear CarrieD
I'm very sorry to see that you have not had a reply to your post yet.I hope that during this time you have been in touch with our Nurseline as it is an extremely difficult time for you and all your family.
As stage 4 Small Cell Lung cancer is a very advanced diagnosis,the goals of treatment would be to shrink the tumour,relieve the symptoms and improve survival,all of which chemotherapy can do.If you can phone us on 1800 200 700 we can discuss this and what other support is available to you.

Kind regards
Cancer Nurse

March 12, 2017 - 01:34

Hi Carrie,
My mum was also diagnosed with sclc in November. It must be so hard for you to manage the distance along with work and small children. It makes an already awful situation almost impossible. How is your dad now? Please feel free to pm me if you'd like too.
Bonnie

March 15, 2017 - 08:34

Hi carrie.so sorry to hear the sad news about your dad and well done for dealing with everything so far.. you seem to be doing brilliant .My mam also was dianosed with stage four small cell cancer and she had no signs either..which i find is more heartbreaken for the families because you feel why did this happen to us ,why didn't we see the signs , was he / she suffering in silents which is very hard. We didnt tell mam that it wasn't curable and i think we did the correct thing because she spent her last days looking forward to the next day and to getting better . Mam went for one course of chemo and found it extermely hard..If you might have any question big or small please please dont hestiate to private mail me..Id love to help you..look after yourself