New to all of this

hi Fighter I,ve only just joined myself.... Off to breast clinic shortly because my expander doesn't feel right and neither do I.... Will chat when I get back and have more time xx

Hi Fighter

So sorry you had to join us here,but this forum is a fantastic support when going through treatment and beyond.Its great to be able to post questions or just have a rant when needed as we all understand exactly what you are going through.
Hope all goes well with mri next week let us know how you get on.The next few weeks you will probably have information overload so ask any questions you need to here.

xx

[quote="Fighter":30zns0pp]Hi, I was diagnosed with breast cancer last week, am over the initial shock and the hardest thing I ever had to do in telling my two teenage kids and my mum. I have lobular cancer and am having an MRI next Friday, so I reckon everything will kick off from there. It's great to have this forum to have people who are going through the same process to talk to.[/quote:30zns0pp]

Hi Fighter,

This is all very new to me as well I went for a routine company mammagram the last day in April ( I had turned 40 in January )and within 2 days they contacted me to say something had showen up and to contact my doctor.I was refered to a breast clinic in my local hospital.I had my surgery on the 25th of may and went back for my check up on the 31st to be told the cells have spread to the tissue surrounding where the tummour was removed and Im now facing another opp this coming Friday.To say im gutted is a slight understatement.I have yet to learn to cope with my anger at the injustice of my illness but on saying that I wouldn't wish this on anyone
Talk soon
Kally
xx

[quote="Fighter":1zx3i3rd]Hi, I was diagnosed with breast cancer last week, am over the initial shock and the hardest thing I ever had to do in telling my two teenage kids and my mum. I have lobular cancer and am having an MRI next Friday, so I reckon everything will kick off from there. It's great to have this forum to have people who are going through the same process to talk to.[/quote:1zx3i3rd]
Hi Fighter, There's nothing worse than having to tell your kids.My own Mum had died 2 years previously... My kids had watched her go through chemo too.... Once I told them that my cancer wasn't the same, explained everytime I had to go back for another operation, they've handled it well.... I'm always as open as I can be to a 9 and 14 year and honesty does help... I know the summer hols are on the way but let the school know what's going on... My son's secondary school are giving him counselling which is a big help....

[quote="Kally":1n2cjh8s][quote="Fighter":1n2cjh8s]Hi, I was diagnosed with breast cancer last week, am over the initial shock and the hardest thing I ever had to do in telling my two teenage kids and my mum. I have lobular cancer and am having an MRI next Friday, so I reckon everything will kick off from there. It's great to have this forum to have people who are going through the same process to talk to.[/quote:1n2cjh8s]

Hi Fighter,

This is all very new to me as well I went for a routine company mammagram the last day in April ( I had turned 40 in January )and within 2 days they contacted me to say something had showen up and to contact my doctor.I was refered to a breast clinic in my local hospital.I had my surgery on the 25th of may and went back for my check up on the 31st to be told the cells have spread to the tissue surrounding where the tummour was removed and Im now facing another opp this coming Friday.To say im gutted is a slight understatement.I have yet to learn to cope with my anger at the injustice of my illness but on saying that I wouldn't wish this on anyone
Talk soon
Kally
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hi Kally, keep your chin up xxxx I had a lumpectomy, found more cells on the margin, back for further exision and ended up having a mastectomy a month ago... to be able to say that the tumour was gone was brilliant... Okay my breast was riddled with precancerous cells but the best choice was made and both the Breast surgeon and Oncologist have confirmed that surgery alone has removed the cancer!!!! A wonderful, wonderful feeling!!!! I too have my days now where I wish I hadn't botheres going ahead with the reconstruction, but it will al come right... You're entitled to feel angry, let it out but don't forget to be positive too xxxxx

Hi
I also found telling my children the most difficult thing I had ever done. My sister told my mother and the rest of my family I just couldn't. It really broke my heart causing so much pain to the people I love the most. But one year on I am still here my children are still typical teenagers and my mother is in Spain for the summer.
I have gone through chemo then surgery then radio therapy definitely more better days but still finding it tough but we wl get there!

Take care of yourselves and let us know how you get on xxx

Hi Girls,
I'm new to this site. I got diagnosed three weeks ago with BC. Devastated to say the least, still crying three weeks on, does it get any easier, I'm terrified by every twing or pain in my body, have myself convinced it has spread, is this a normal reaction?
Shirls

Hi shirls

Sorry your joining us . I cried for the first month at least cried through first chemo couldn't talk to any health professionals without breaking down. I would say I got used to it or learnt to live with it more than it got easier. Personally I found people who had been through it before helped the most. Medical staff were brilliant and got psychiatrist in hospital to talk to me met him three times and was able to cope much better after that take any help that's offered!
Look after yourself once any tests needed are done you will be able to relax a bit.

Good luck xxxx

Thanks for all your support. I will be getting the results of my mri today. DD also started junior cert today and I feel I'm neglecting her with all this going on. Time seems to go so slowly between tests, scans etc and getting results. Like someone else mentioned I'm also paranoid about every ache or pain I have. Last week I had a few days of being angry with the world, saying why, why, why, when I lead a very healthy lifestyle, don't drink or smoke, eat well and exercise. I also know my son, who is 17 is worrying a lot, that's breaking my heart. But, I'm putting on a brave face, being as cheerful as I can be in the circumstances, the last thing I want is the kids worrying when hopefully there won't be too much to worry about. All will be revealed today.

Shirls
Just to say that I feel much like you. Diagnosed end of March currently in chemo and crying morning, noon and night. Totally irrational I know as crying is not going to change anything. Chemo half over and I have mastectomy due in Sept. I have made an appointment with psycho oncologist at Vincents. If it even reduces the crying I will be happy. Most people say they felt better after counselling. Will let you know how it goes as I have apt next week. Best of luck to you.

Hi dane7

Will you let us know how you get on with physco oncologist in vincents am attending there myself and although am finished chemo and surgery im struggling now with it all.

Hope it goes well for you and you find it helpful.
Thanks

Will do. I know it won't be easy. But I hope it can help. I guess it can't hurt!

Hi ladies,
I certainly feel for you having just being diagnosed. Shocked doesn't even cover it - I found it all surreal. I suppose I just gave myself a job of informing myself and involving myself as much as I could. It all gets pretty busy anyway between scans, tests, bloods, biopsies, results, treatment and whatever else you have! By the time you are finished it will feel like you have qualified in oncology yourself! It's such a learning curve not only from a medical point of view, but also in personal development!
I wasn't in the space last year for going to a counsellor but really enjoyed talking to one this year, as it gave me a great perspective and helped me to deal with alot of stuff that come up in my personal life in the aftermath of being diagnosed and going through treatment.

Hopefully all will be well with you and please God it will start to pale to insignificance in your life x

Hello and welcome to all the 'new to all this' posters-

Really sorry you had to join us, but this forum really helps. I finished treatment at end Januray, and I'm on Tamoxifen for next 4.5 yrs.

What I can say from this vantage point is-

All of the shock, upset, confusion, tiredness, and most of all, the fighting spirit that everyone is expressing is normal in my experience. I found it good to keep writing about it, keep talking about it (getting it out of yourself), keeping a diary, a useful thing on chemo anyway as you can compare where you are in the cycle when things are bad. I found it important to talk to a counsellor, though, to be honest, you're a bit too 'raw' during full-on cancer-year, to really calmly benefit, but it's all part of the process. I think its important to acknowledge to yourself anyway what a hell of an emotional battle the whole thing is- and to try to fight and do anything you can to help your sanity along. In my experience, whilst the doctors and nurses are watching the cancer stuff, no-one but yourself (and maybe your partner) is watching your emotional health. So I tried visualisation, meditation, counselling. Move, walk, exercise every day- even if it's just walking to the end of the garden path on bad days. Later, once I finished, I found 'mindfulness ' sessions, which is available in St Vincents and possibly St Lukes, and definitely yoga, which isn't, really really helped my mental state. So far, so good..

best of luck to all, you'll get through it-

xxxx

Hi, I also am new to this. Got my results Tues 26 June . Had gone for mammogram on 13th Jan 2012 and results came back normal, then on the 18th May 2012 my work were doing their mammograms so did not need to go , had no pain, no lump and never looked fitter and healthier but something made me go, and am I delighted I went as this mammogram showed up something not on mammogram in 2010, which they got my doc to arrangange an ultrasound , also they did a biopsy and results came back stage 1 DCIS. Surgery next Mon, a lumpectomy, so far,definite hormone treatment and radiotherapy, full treatment will be known when results from lumpectomy arrive. Feel very positive, about what the outcome will be, but also feel so so scared. Did not even cry yet! Is this normal. would like to hear how others feel. Gina

I'm using Tamoxifen and have no side effects at all. It's been around for 30 years. Aromatase Inhibitors are good as well.

Before one decides to go out and spend good money on Salvestrol supplements at a health food shop, consider reading this below......Best to talk to your oncologist as they are [b:2yr0rupa]qualified[/b:2yr0rupa] in their field of work to what actually is proven to help prevent cancer recurrence.

http://www.quackometer.net/blog/2006/07 ... -offs.html

Guess all that vegetable intake really worked well for Linda McCartney who died from breast cancer aged 56 and a well renowned Vegetarian! RIP.

Blessings

Hugs to all who have been newly diagnosed .DX 11mths ago and am doing well. You will all get through this.

Thanks Mimiraffo,

I think anyone trying out anythine including Salvestrols should run it past their Breast Care nurse or oncologist first even if they are not on Tamoxifen.