Axillary clearance and chemo ahead. I'm 39 with an almost 8 yr old and a 3 year old. I feeling completely detailed after yesterday's lumpectomy and node results.
I don't know what to feel think, say or do.
I turned 39 in April and as a present I was told I have breast cancer.
I had a lumpectomy on May 31st and nodes were removed. They thought tumour was 2cm and that it didn't look like any nodes were effected.
I got my results yesterday.
Tumour was 3.4cm and 5 of the 6 nodes have cancer in them. I now have to have every single node removed from.my armpit. I think its called axillary clearance. I was told I'm borderline stage 2/3 but that can go up based on results of axillary clearance.
Chemo will start about 6 weeks after this next op. And last for 6 months(maybe more, maybe less).
I have 2 young girls. Amira, meaning princess, is nearly 8 and a huge worrier and over thinks everything (like me) and Yara, meaning little Butterfly, is 3 and a huge Mammys girl and was breastfed up until 2 weeks before my first op. I havent told either of them yet what's going on. I was hoping to have lumpectomy and radio therapy as was thought initially based off ultrasound and scans. Now I will have to tell them.
Have you advice about how to tell a complete worrier and Mammys girl almost 8 yr old.
I don't know how or what to say. And also I'll have to say something to my 3 yr old. How do a explain things but not have it scary?
I'm scared. Amira will be 8 on Friday and all thats going through my head is .... Will I be alive for 9th?
Its so over whelming for me. I also have a tumour consistent with looks to be a meningioma which is parked aside for now. I feel like I've a huge mountain to climb and I don't know how to do it and still be a mammy. My husband works long hours. He's gone from 5.30 am til about 6.30pm so I do everything else, school runs,(about 25/30 min from home) activities (about 35 mins from home) and playdates, parties etc. Plus all in the house. We've cats, dog and chickens.
Is there anyone who is in similar situation to me? How did you manage everything? How sick were you? Have you recovered? Did it get worse?
I feel alone, I don't know anyone similar age with young family with this horrible diagnosis.
Plus since my op, I cane home to a 5 day tummy bug inn3 yr old then I got uti and the bug, now I'm over them and she gets a uti (started antibiotics yesterday
evening) yesterday (yes day of results) and 40.2 degrees fever I'm struggling to keep down.
How do ye manage cancer, chemo and surgeries with young family?
Sorry for long post. I feel completely derailed and overwhelmed.
Thank you for reading.