In memory
posted by Amanda12
02 April 2009

In Memory of Bridget Neale

Last reply: 19 April 2009 01:05

My Mother passed away on the 29 November 08. She had lung cancer and the cancer had spread to most of her main organs by the time she died. She was born in Dublin and like so many at that time went over to England where she met my father who was from Cork. I settledd in Cork with my husband and three children and she was a regular visitor. She arrived for a ten day stay last July on a Wednesday and felt a little unwell on the Friday evening. I took her to the doctor on Saturday morning and she was admitted to hospital the same day. Here is where the nightmare started.
Once the chest xrays had been done it became apparant that there was something seriously wrong, but it took time for a diagnosis. Biopsies failed and were redone. My Mother knew that this was not going to have a happy ending. It is very stressful waiting for test results and different doctors coming round askig questions that you have already told another doctor. I know my Mother found this very tiresome but coped so well. It is very true that you only find out your strength when you are faced with such bad news which is relentless. Pain was a problem for my Mother so the pain medication got stronger and sometimes didin`t suit her and she would react swetating, shaking talking but not making any sense. She was in and out of hospital. She came home on 20 November for the last time. I only had a couple of days with her before she tooka turn for the worse Then her meds were administered directly into her bloodstream. The pallative nurses were brilliant and very supportive. One in particular was a night nurse who came for three nights her name is Patricia she was a God send myself and family will always be grateful to her for care and compassion she showed. God Bless you Patricia. Again the other pallative nurses were great.
My Mother had given up smoking about a year and a half before her death, which made it even sadder. The time since she passed has gone so quick and although I will always have an ache in my heart and I can`t think about my son a gangly 15 year old gently lifting your coffin without getting tearful.
You had so much dignity Mum throughout your life. I loved that you would always put your family first. I sold daffodils this year Mum like you did the year before. Thankyou Mum for so much. I know that you are happy and at peace. Love forever xx

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commented by LISA BERMINGHAM
19 April 2009

19 April 2009 01:05

HI AMANDA DEEPEST SYMPATHY ABOUT YOUR MUM SHE WAS A BRAVE WOMAN AND I AM SURE YOU WILL KEEP HER STRENGTH IN YOU GOING MY FATHER HAS STAGE 3A LUNG CANCER DIAGNOSED SINCE FEBRUARY A SMOKER BUT ASWELL AS HIM WE ARE ALL TRYING TO BE VERY STRONG SO HOPEFULLY SOME DAY WE WILL BE ABLE TO BEAT ALL CANCER WITH OUR STRENGTH LONG LIVE LIFE LISA.

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