Distraught after losing my father
I lost my dear father last week to brain cancer. He only lived 10 months from diagnosis to death and it was a rollercoaster of a journey. I was by his side for the last two months as he went downhill rapidly over xmas and New Year. We were told then that he only had a few days but lasted until 4th March. It was a horrific journey at that point though and I was with him when he eventually passed away.
I am finding it very tough. While he was ill, I just dealt with it and tried not to dwell on the inevitable outcome. His prognosis had always been poor. Now that he's gone, I'm reflecting on everything he went through and becoming increasingly distraught. I feel guilty that I couldn't do anything to help him. I even feel guilty about his death and wonder if I'd called the nurse earlier would he still be with us. I can't come to terms with any of it and feel I let him down.
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Dear April Girl
Just been there for some one is good and helped your Dad also would you really have wanted your Dad to live days longer his time was up and he must have felt tired trying to say a happy release .You could not have done anymore for your Dad . Go easy on your self .
Dear Aprilgirl,
I am very sorry to read that you have so recently lost your dad after his illness. It’s understandable that you feel devastated right now and are experiencing many thoughts and feelings. I hope that you will receive some replies soon from others who are posting on the message board.
I would like to suggest that you contact us on the National Cancer Helpline where you can speak to a cancer nurse specialist for further support and we can also offer you some advice about various bereavement services. Our lines are open Mon to Thurs (9-7pm) and Fri (9-5pm) on freefone 1800 200 700.
Kind regards,
Cancer Information Nurse