Bladder cancer

Is there anyone out there who has been diagnosed with Bladder Cancer? I was diagnosed with this just last year - which came as a terrible shock to me. My husband and I were away from home at the time and I had an episode of very heavy bleeding which frightened me. (We spent almost an entire night in an A&E and I was told that this was a 'bladder infection,' given antibiotics and sent home for further investigation in my nearest hospital. The later diagnosis shocked me as I have never smoked even one cigarette in my life. (This, apparently, is the primary cause of this type of cancer.) I am female (just 58 at the time of diagnosis) and have always been very healthy and fit - don't drink either. I feel that this is an environmental issue (I live on the East coast) and would like to be in touch with others who have been diagnosed, with a view to doing my own research into the whole area of this type of cancer. As it is often referred to as an 'elderly man's' disease, I would also like to hear from women out there who have been diagnosed. The youngest lady I have been in touch with is just 25. Any response would be greatly appreciated.