Caring for someone with cancer
posted by ciaraf
18 February 2016

Just got told it's not curable

Last reply: 17 June 2016 21:42

Hi everyone,
My name is Ciara and my mum (52) was diagnosed with stomach cancer in June 2015. She was put straight onto chemo with the idea that the talk of surgery would be had further down the line. The oncologist we had at the time was very pro surgery which obviously made us feel like this Cancer was something that could be cured. However, 8 months down the line, and after countless rounds of chemo (which has kept the cancer stable) we have a new oncologist who has told us that we should have never been led to believe surgery was an option and that there is no actual cure for my mums cancer. She is going to be starting on a new antibody treatment which will hopefully keep it at bay, but we are left reeling. I don't know how long you can live with stomach/gastric cancer? Scared, confused and devastated all at the same time and I don't know what to do.

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commented by evelyn123
27 April 2016

14 June 2016 16:54

Ciara,

I was diagnosed with uncurable Breast Cancer in June 14 at only 33yrs old. Now I know that the cancer types are different but the not being able to be cured is the same and brings up the same emotions and feelings. It is absolutely terrifying and heartbreaking but trust me with time the panic eases and you start to live again although in a very different way. Absolutely tap into the services that are there. Find your nearest cancer support centre they are fantastic. If any of you have young children find the nearest CLIMB program that they can attend and get them into that it is fantastic. My children did it this year. If I can help or advise in any other way please just ask. Love to you and your family.

commented by Coco1
17 June 2016

17 June 2016 21:42

We hope you and your Mum have made contact with your local cancer support group as they also have been of great help to me and my young family in living with Cancer. We understand it's a confusing time but talking to people who have the latest information and professional contacts (counselling) will help you get through it all.

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